Lessons for O – A Collection of Thoughts 

Scatter kindness. You will always encounter individuals who lack both common sense and manners. How someone treats you is a reflection of them and not you. Let them behave in their unrefined ways…that’s not on you. Continue to be your sweet and kind self…even to those who may not deserve it.

A Frog is a frog, period. Never kiss a frog hoping he will turn in to a prince.

Volunteering is good for the soul. Always volunteer for humanitarian efforts; it’s how we can start to change lives…even yours.

Know your worth. Your self worth will never be tied to someone else’s opinion. If someone doesn’t like you or doesn’t think highly of you, let it be his or her problem; it’s more than likely coming from a place of insecurity. Learn to deal, but it’s not easy. Even your mom is still learning to do this.

Love. Love as if your soul is on fire. Be all in and committed. You may feel heartbreak—I guarantee it, but love is worth it…and so are the lessons gained from that experience.

Give. Be giving of your time, your resources, your talents, your mind, and your heart. But don’t allow yourself to be used.

Listen. Listen with the intent to understand another person’s perspective – not with the intent to reply.

Bullies are everywhere. You will come across these individuals throughout your lifetime. Bullies come in all shapes and sizes – girls and boys – roommates and classmates – teachers – colleagues – men and women – supervisors and leaders. It’s true, my darling, they are everywhere. When you encounter these lifeforms remember this – they all have one trait in common: they are cowards. Stand up to them; speak your truth even if your voice shakes.

If you can, do. If you can’t, learn. The point here – don’t fear a challenge or a new role. There’s a learning curve to everything in life (parenting being one of the steepest), but you can and will learn, but you won’t start out as an expert. That’s ok. 

You’re never wrong to do the right thing. I believe Mark Twain is credited with saying this and all my life I’ve not found him to be in error. Do the right thing…always. But know ahead of time that the right thing may not be the popular thing and the popular thing may not be the right thing…do right anyway. 

Be a stiletto in a room full of flats. I love this. Dare to be different. It’s a simple as that.

Somewhere beyond life and death there is a garden and I’ll meet you there. This one is from Uncle Ross and is a beautiful perspective on the journey of life. There will come a day when I’m no longer physically here by your side, but never ever forget that I’ll be waiting in that garden for you.

Please and Thank You. These are two phrases that will never go out of style. Use them liberally and often.